Showing posts with label Notre Dame Prep School. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Notre Dame Prep School. Show all posts

Thursday, 16 May 2013

Why are Feast Days important?

In common with many other faith schools, Notre Dame School has a feast day to celebrate its foundation, in this case on the 15 May, the anniversary of the sainthood of St Jeanne de Lestonnac who opened her first school in 1607. My own friends often talk about Feast Days or Founders Days from their own childhoods, and when I say I’ve had a great day at school they often laughingly ask: “Was it a Feast Day?”

However, in these busy times, when performance and attainment are uppermost in people’s minds and the fear of lesson time wasted or ill used for entertainment is a prevalent fear, I believe it is time for us to remind ourselves again about the importance of Feast Days.

For me, excellent education is a holistic affair. Children need to become rounded, moral, thinking, spiritual beings in order to be fulfilled in life and to contribute to society. These dispositions do not happen by accident, and although their own families are the first best educators, it is the experiences shared in common with their peers and their role models that really help them to develop. Experiences provided by the school shape and form an individual far more than the taught concepts. Living life and learning to manage it, with all the complexity of social interaction and the ability to understand what contributes to happiness and self-satisfaction, is far more likely to make a positive difference to success in life than an extra hour of maths and English.

So my school reorganises the day, to allow for most of the usual lessons to be fitted in, but making space for the whole school to come together for a service of celebration and thanksgiving and for shared lunch where all of the age-groups mix to make new friends and ‘big’ or ‘little sisters’. Aside from the social aspects, the bigger girls are role models for the younger. Their tenderness with the youngsters is touching to see, and a valuable part of life.

The Feast Day for me also focuses attention on a shared celebration that touches this whole community. Unlike any other event it does not reward the success of the few, it does not rely on competition, and it is not more applicable to some than others. A Feast Day simply offers itself as a shared celebration in common with whole community, much as a birthday or Christmas celebration might in the family home. School spirit, something that translates itself through life into family spirit, community spirit, or even a willing or tireless work ethic begins here, and cannot be created by lessons alone. Character is not the result of audited academic success. Being part of a community and being able to celebrate that 'belonging' is also an essential part of personal happiness.

On other days beyond the norm, for house competitions, rehearsals, concerts, assemblies, music ensembles, sports activities and the like, children are given opportunities to contribute to the community in a way that does not simply benefit them or lead to personal success. I firmly believe that understanding the contribution that one can make to the whole is an essential discipline. Work in the twenty first century is more than likely to involve collaboration, presentation, self-discipline, ability to listen (Apprentice candidates take note!), and discernment about one’s place in the group and judgement about who to imitate and follow. All of these are learned more effectively through activities and experiences beyond the classroom. For pupils that cannot be happily involved beyond the limelight, who are not trained to watch and join in on cue, who don’t know that there are strengths and rewards in being an anonymous part of a celebrating community, who do not turn up to events after hours if their parents are not going to be in the audience, who cannot feel motivated if there is no reward, life will be deeply frustrating, puzzling and hard grind.

So happy Feast Day to you all, whenever that day may be for you. 


Thursday, 14 March 2013

What Can Children Learn From Us?

This morning I attended a really interesting meeting about learning, with parents of some of the youngest pupils at Notre Dame Prep School. This lovely poem was read to us by Sally Palmer, Head of Pre-Prep. It may be familiar to you, as it was to me, but I was so pleased to hear it in the context of shared responsibility for the development of young pupils. It says so much that for once I am not going to add any further comment!

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live
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Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

Friday, 15 February 2013

Why Teach Life Skills?

Teaching life skills to children is obviously one of the key points of family life! Every child benefits not only from ‘nuts and bolts’ skills such as learning to dress, using cutlery and organising belongings, but also from fundamental interpersonal skills that will enable them to get on with others, develop a sense of place in the world and a sense of proportion, to be able to handle conflicts and to be resilient and robust in the face of unexpected (or even expected) challenges.

Schools obviously help with these types of skills, as children are likely to face other children and complexities at school, away from parental guidance far more, and it is important for them to have these skills supported, modelled and scaffolded as they develop in judgement and confidence. However, there are some skills that need to be explicitly addressed in order to develop children who are equipped to manage how to become incredible people in society. This may be academic, or they may be skills of judgement and discernment – either way they need to be identified, taught and practised.

One of my own ‘hobby horses’ is the teaching of basic first aid, allowing children to develop skills to act in a crisis. I believe this allows them to consider others with compassion, to have a sense of their responsibility towards others, to feel confidence by having useable knowledge, and along the way to have a really meaningful education about the essential organs of the body so that they can understand good health and how their body works. The St John Ambulance runs a course for this to use with ‘Young Carers’ and at Notre Dame Preparatory School this is followed by all Year 6 pupils, culminating with certification, and teams put forward to the national competition.

Swimming is another essential life skill, not only for saving lives, but allowing for the pleasure of free movement underwater, something of lifelong benefit to those who become less fit over time for a host of reasons.
One of the other, often overlooked life skills is the ability to view your own self objectively, and without too much seriousness. From this comes the ability to apologise meaningfully and to offer and accept forgiveness with light-heartedness. These are just a few examples.

If you had to seek out a friend in a crisis of your own, a physical or an emotional one, what capital would you look for in terms of skills? Who could you turn to? How can you equip your child to be the person who can help? Real education, both at home and at school, needs to address these questions very carefully.